Early in my ministry, I was asked to do some marital
counseling. Each person had a number of complaints about the other person.
After a couple of sessions, it was very clear that these people really loved
one another, but they had lost or forgotten how to communicate that love to the
other person.
Not knowing how to say it to the other person, only knowing
what they wanted as a sign of the other person’s love, one of the two said, “If
you really love me, then you would …”
What each of them wanted was to know that they were valued
by the other person. Somehow, after many years of marriage, they had just
gotten out of the habit of saying the word that we all long to hear. They had
forgotten to say each other’s name at home and in public.
At home, they didn’t use names at all. In public, the man
referred to his wife as, “the wife”, and the wife referred to her husband as, “my
old man.”
Beyond that they had gotten out of the habit of saying that
they loved one another. The wife said, “I cook his meals. I bake his favorite
cookies. I do his wash. I clean the house. How many ways do I have to say, ‘I
love you’?”
The husband said, “If I have to tell her that I love her,
then what have we been doing all these years? Isn’t what we have gone through
enough to let her know that I love her? If I didn’t love her, I’d have left
years ago.”
It took some practice, but eventually they learned to call
each other by name again, and they even learned to say those other three words,
“I love you.” And as far as I know, they are still working out what it means to
be married and in a relationship with one another.
Today, we hear something like this couple’s words, “If you
love me, then you …”. But these words are not the same. I want to be very clear
here. These words are not the same.
Jesus words might even be translated here as, “Since you
love me, you will follow my commandments.” But whether you read it as if or
since, Jesus speaks of being in relationship with him and the world by loving
one another. This loving relationship that Jesus calls us to is not only about
saying, “I love you” nor is it only about doing things in the world for one
another and our neighbors. It is a relationship that communicates in thought,
word, and deed, our care and concern. It involves calling each other by name
and letting that person know their value to us.
Jesus says that he will not be in the world forever, but
that for those who are in this loving relationship with him that he will send
another (hear this clearly), another, advocate. That is, Jesus will continue to
be our advocate in our relationship with God, AND we will get another advocate:
the spirit of truth.
Last week we learned that Jesus is the way, the truth, and
the life; and today we find that we will be given the spirit of truth, the
breath of truth, the thing that makes life possible, in a life-giving
relationship of breath itself.
In this new relationship, we learn that we will not be
orphaned, lost in grief without direction, when Jesus is crucified and buried. We
will be given the words of hope, of resurrection, and all of this is going to
be IN the relationship of God’s mysterious being.
Jesus says, “As I am in the Father, and you are in me, and I
am in you, so now this relationship of God’s presence is augmented, that is
made even greater through the promise of this advocate who is coming to us.”
So how do we claim this relationship, and how are we claimed
in this relationship?
First, we are claimed by name in baptism. In Baptism, we are
called by name to be in relationship with Christ in, with, and under the water
joined with God’s word for us. Through these waters, we are called to be in
ministry with one another for the sake of the Gospel. In this relationship of
love and caring, we are given the knowledge of the promise of salvation.
Second, in our baptismal lives, we hear the story of what
Christ has done for us, Christ’s life given for us, and Christ’s words of
forgiveness and presence. Hearing these words, we gather to know Christ’s
presence in our lives at the altar receiving Christ’s true presence in, with,
and under the bread and the wine together with Christ’s loving command to eat
and drink. In Baptism and Communion, we are assured that we will not be alone
in the challenges of this world.
That is what Christ does for us. But what about our half of
the relationship? How is it that we call out God’s name? How do we say those
words of love to God? How do we recognize that mystery of us being in God and
God being in us?
Our recognition of that relationship of love we have with
God is expressed each week in worship when we say the creed. This amazing
statement of faith allows us to publicly name God and declare our trust in God.
This simple statement claims our place in our sacred relationship with God.
We do not say, “I believe that God created the heavens and
the earth.” Instead, we claim our place in God acknowledging that without God
and our relationship with God, we cannot know the beautiful gift. As our
awareness of this room comes to us because we are in the room and our awareness
of this building comes to us through being in this room also, so now we claim
our place of faith, that is, our ultimate trust, in God. We state that our
awareness of the world and the needs of the world are encountered through our
place IN God of life and all of creation.
We say, “I believe IN God, the father almighty, creator of
heaven and earth.” In our older Nicene Creed, we add that creation is more than
heaven and earth; it includes all that we see and all that we cannot see. We
acknowledge that there is more to this world than we can know. There is more to
the universe than what we know. As a matter of fact, there is a cosmological
multiverse that far exceeds our imagination.
But that is not all. We publicly state that our relationship
in God is more than a loving parent, we name God’s word made flesh, revealed to
us in the person of Jesus Christ. We name his birth, his ministry, his death
and resurrection. Yes, we name him before the world with pride.
Even more than that, we acknowledge and give thanks for the
gift of the advocate, the one who speaks for us, the one who always walks with
us. We publicly declare that we know and love God in the presence of the Holy
Spirit whose work continues in and through the Church. We recognize that work
in the communion, that is, in the relationship we have with all of God’s people
in the world depending on the faithful witness of those who have gone before
us. In this amazing community we receive forgiveness and come to know the
assurance of life everlasting.
In this amazing statement of faith, we name God as being
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, claiming and naming those things that God
continues to do for us. Continuing in that relationship of love that has called
us by name, we go out to share that love with the world around us. We do not go
out sharing God’s love in order to be saved; we go out and share God’s love
because we are saved.
It is not something that we do alone, we do it in the
company of one another and in the company of the great advocate who has come to
us—in the presence of the Holy Spirit.
In the words of the old song, “When you walk through a storm,
hold your head up high and don’t be afraid of the dark.” Indeed, walk through
the winds, walk through the storm. You’ll never be alone. God is with you.
One of the things that Martin Luther said that continues to
dazzle me concerning God’s presence with us is, “God is closer to us than our
skin is to our bodies.” With a loving, embracing relationship like that, how
can we help but respond by hugging those whom God has sent us?